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December 17, 2009

Things have been very busy these past few months, which is why I haven’t been adding new posts. Some interesting things have happened on the kink front, but I haven’t quite processed it all yet. At this point, though, I’m starting to think that I will never find a trustworthy and goodhearted guy, kinky or not. And I am growing ever more cynical about kinky men in general. Submissives seem to me to be deeply selfish and self-centered bullshit artists, weak, unreliable and unworthy of emotional investment. So I am not feeling very interested in submissive men in general these days. I don’t want to be involved with flimsy people, emotional cowards.

It’s my birthday. I’m used to having mine overlooked given the time of year it is. In general, I don’t really like birthdays. They seem forced. People you haven’t spoken to for awhile suddenly contact you out of the blue just to wish you a nice day. And birthdays make you feel worse if things aren’t going well.  A birthday is a good day to feel lonelier than usual, or more dissatisfied with how things are going. If you aren’t doing anything special on your birthday, then it’s like you’ve failed. But if you’re sitting at home updating your fucking blog on a normal, non-birthday day? No big deal.

I’m a year older. I feel like I’m still waiting for my life to begin.

Do you ever fantasize about just leaving? Getting into a car and driving away from your life, your commitments and entanglements? I don’t know where I would go, but the idea of flying down a long highway, no end in sight,  no real destination in mind, is very appealing to me right now.


It’s funny. I’m surrounded by people. I socialize. But I still feel lonely. And I don’t think that lonely feeling will go away unless I can really be alone.

Or hell, maybe I just want a real relationship for a change, not all this second-hand, second-rate crap I’ve been offered, that I’ve been constructing.

Sorry, I’m rambling. I guess I’m just disappointed with this past year in general. I thought it would be different in a lot of ways, a grand beginning, but it’s been one of the worst in a long time. Growing pains.

I hope this year will be better.  Or at least, not any worse.

Dead sexy

September 15, 2009

I saw the Body Worlds exhibit once and marveled at the strange and sometimes beautiful ways human anatomy was displayed. I thought it was aesthetically well-done, as well as truly educational. And I didn’t think it was disrespectful to show the corpses playing basketball or dancing. The exhibit was a celebration of the human body rather than a macabre creep fest (unlike, say The Mutter Museum).

But I can’t help but be a little weirded out by Life Cycles, which will feature a male and female cadaver posed having intercourse, (and reverse cowgirl at that). The Von Hagens, who are in charge of the project, seem to find nothing off-putting about this idea. Strangely, their only reservation seems to be whether depicting homosexual sex would be indecent or controversial.

Yeah, people might have problems with cadavers having gay sex.  (via Gawker).

I’m a dork

August 31, 2009

Is it lame of me to be kind of jazzed that not one, but two of my comments got featured in the Best Of Dating Confessions?

More importantly (or not), can you guess which ones?

ETA: Tonight feels like September. I’ve never liked hot weather so I’m enjoying it, but also feeling nostalgic. It would be a perfect night to cuddle.