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Found kink: Descent

September 13, 2009

I know this is kind of wrong, but Descent (2007) has some of the hottest femdom scenes I’ve ever seen.  Completely kicks the ass of most ‘femdom’ porn I’ve ever seen. If you have Netflix, you can watch it instantly. I’ll admit I skipped most of the movie (which is actually mostly about a young woman who is raped by some asshole) to get to the good stuff at the very end.

First there’s a lengthy CFNM scene with the gorgeous Rosario Dawson teasing, dominating and basically getting her rapist (Chad Faust) all worked up into a hormonal lather before blindfolding him and leading him away. This is followed by her chaining him to a bed in some dungeon-y looking place, then violating him painfully with what looks like a baton. Finally, there’s a really long, really hot rape scene starring slab-o-beef Marcus Patrick.

Dawson just kind of hangs out ringside while this is going on. She remains fully clothed and is  pretty uninvolved once the revenge rape is really getting underway, so the focus is definitely on the two men.  Patrick is a remarkable specimen of manhood and Faust has that clean-cut, boy-next-door sort of look I tend to go for. They’re both naked, sweating, grunting and interacting with each other with a very D/s sort of dynamic, very raw. I love how Patrick just fucking manhandles Faust, crooning evil things while giving him a reaming he’ll never forget. The look of fear in the boy’s eyes, his obvious humiliation (when he starts to enjoy what’s happening), his ineffectual struggling against the bonds, and (muffled) screams are all so….yummy.

The one thing that kind of messes with the verisimilitude is that the few times we see Faust’s naughty bits, he’s flaccid…OK, there are a few other things, but whatever, it still works for me!

This is one that’s definitely staying in my queue.

Porn, porn, porn, porn aaannndd porn

June 2, 2009

Maybe there are more men out there with submissive tendencies than you or I (or they?) suspect.

My grand piece of evidence is all the porn out there that features a woman with a mean look on her face barking at the poor fellow laboring over her to “fuck [her] pussy harder!”

I call it ‘porn sneer’–that contorted, angry face that some female porn performers use in place of the ecstatic o-face or the more typical look of boredom.

The woman’s (faked) orgasm will be accompanied by noises that would be suited to an alley cat fight. I mean, with her frantic pumping, bared teeth, unnatural breasts, and three-inch-long fake nails, the average female porn star is already kind of terrifying. Throw in that scowly, crazy-eyed look and you’ve got a snarling, snapping sex monster on your dick.

Who would find sort of energy attractive but a guy with a bit of a submissive side?

I find the porn sneer to be somewhat off-putting, perhaps because I’m dominant. I sort of like it when the girl or girls are smiling as if to say, “This is a slightly awkward situation (or position), but I will at least try to look engaged and interested.” It’s the sort of smile one assumes during a job interview or first date.

But I generally find porn aimed at heterosexual men to be kind of dull, or gross, or not very sexy. My problem is almost always the female performer, who usually does not seem to be enjoying herself. Then thoughts of female exploitation in the adult entertainment business creep in and I just start feeling sorry for the poor girl. Yes, perhaps there is no basis for my pity, but damnit, that’s what happens when I watch a typical porn flick. And pity does not make for arousal.

So I prefer gay or bisexual porn. MMF threesomes actually make a lot more sense (and are way sexier) if the boys involved are bi rather than carefully trying to avoid touching or looking at each other. The performers in the bi porn I’ve seen usually seem to be enjoying themselves more. I mean, after awhile doesn’t hetero-oriented group sex just seem like a lot of joyless pumping and thrusting to you?

I like scaring my sub by bringing up forced bi, but I’m actually not sure how hot it would be. I’d probably get my dominant thrills from the forced aspect, but watching people have very disengaged sex is just not that sexy. So, you know: Bring on the bisexuals!

What kind of Domme are you?

February 19, 2009

One reason why I started this blog was ’cause I haven’t come across that many detailed, ongoing discussions of getting into kink right from the beginning, when you’re still rubbing the vanilla out of your eyes. But I don’t think I’ve emphasized enough how weird things can look when you’re at this transitional stage.

Guys, it’s weird being so new to all of this. Weird telling people that I realized I was into pervy stuff about four months ago. Weird because most of the kinky people I’ve interacted with have known they were kinky since they were like, toddlers.

“Oh, I liked getting caught and tied up when we played cops and robbers in grade school.”

“When I was a little girl, I chased down and sat on the boys I had crushes on.”

“I had leather diapers. I was born with a ball gag in my mouth.”

From a newb’s perspective, such talk comes off (probably unintentionally) as a sort of pissing contest about ‘proving’ your kinky credentials. I’m guessing this might be a mix of a) the truth, b) leftover crap from the Old Guard about authenticity and ‘earning your leather’ and c) insecurity (theirs and mine).

(Yeah, I also hate it when people throw ‘insecurity’ around as a reason for everything that anyone does. But still, seems to fit most of the time, doesn’t it?)

Me? I’m still figuring out not only what being a dominant, sadistic and kinky woman means, but what it is exactly.

  • Does sexual sadism mean getting off from pain only in a sexual context? Any kind of pain? Pain in nonsexual contexts? Is The Passion of the Christ like porn for some people?
  • Does assuming the dominant role in a relationship mean taking on a more hands-on role in terms of decision-making, (i.e. doing all the heavy-lifting, being bossy all the time)? Or just lying back and letting the work be done for you, (i.e. “worm, your Goddess demands that you do My taxes!”)?
  • What’s the line between sex and play, if there is any? Should I be jealous if my submissive plays with someone else? Should I not be so averse to playing with female subs, even though I’m straight?

Once, I was thrown into a kind of existential crisis when a submissive man asked me, “so wat kind of Domme r u Goddes?”

After dying a little bit inside, I found myself stymied. What kind of Domme am I? What kinds of Dommes are there? Is there a well-known typology that I’m unaware of?

I investigated online and came across a few types:

Super Dominatrix: cold, cruel, wholly sadistic, evil and crazy bitch; has a pussy made of sandpaper and battery acid; the stuff of submissive male fantasy. Examples: Elizabeth Bathory; Ilse Koch; Ann Coulter.

Fetish Doll: young, pretty, toned, under-dressed, probably actually submissive. Examples: all of femdom porn.

School Marm, Nurse or Nanny/Governess: severe, prim, proper, starched, disapproving, reads a little older (oedipal complex, shhhh). Examples:

Gauzy Hippie Goth Chick: more into the spiritual side of BDSM, online play, velvet corsets, some crossover with the Renn Faire and sci fi/fantasy crowd. No examples, but there’s this post.

Professional: professional dominatrix. Examples: everywhere.

Well, I am not a sociopath, nor do I walk around with the “same doll smile crimped between [my] chin and  [my] nose.” I loathe velvet, don’t like the look of fetish wear, and don’t get paid to dominate men, so none of the above.

The way I think of myself is still evolving. I change my mind all the time. The one thing I know for sure is that people take this stuff way too seriously sometimes. Kinky folk can come across as incredibly humorless and uptight, which is the exact opposite of what kinkiness should be all about (here I go, making up a new rule).

What kind of Domme am I?

That’s like asking what kind of straight woman or American or pet owner I am. Labels can be convenient shortcuts, but sometimes it seems that lifestylers think only in terms of labels.

So, what about you, gentle reader? Know what kind of dominant, switch or submissive you are? Or is the question just as lame as I’d thought?